Keep Calm and Recap

“Yes, that’s it,” and  “Exactly,” and “You got it,” are the responses you hear when you slow down to summarize what someone is sharing with you. Then you may hear their highlight, “I’m happy that you accurately repeated back a brief summary of each main item I shared. It lets me know you’re listening.” Sharing what you heard and...
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“Onward Through the Fog!”—R. Crumb

Perfection fosters procrastination.  We dream. Then, as we think about putting feet-t0-our-dreams, the dark cloud of perfection reminds us that there is no use in even starting since it won’t be perfect anyway. And starting is exactly how to begin! Step right into that gloomy fog of procrastination. Start with a tiny step that takes 60 seconds or less. Then see what happens. My tiny step...
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They wonder about you.

People are wondering about you. They wonder: Are you for me (or not)? Can you help me prepare and make progress (or not)? Do you think you are more important than me (or not)? Do I get a say (or not)?   If you can demonstrate that: You are for them You want to help them prosper You show yourself to be humble and supportive, and that, You truly want to hear what they have to say They...
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Get your Charisma ARGHing–in just FIVE minutes or less!

Get your leadership charisma ARGHing–in FIVE minutes or less. Click here to enjoy my Relational Intelligence for Leaders blockbuster! Then email me at  coachingparker@comcast.net  and let me know at what point your charisma kicked in!   P.S. Once the link opens, wait a few seconds and it will start on its own. Be sure your sound is...
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Listening is Tough

Listening is tough, especially when we are under fire. Here’s one reason why we struggle First, Appreciate your brilliance. Our brilliant brains think at the rate of 1,000 to 1,400 words per minute. People speak at about 125 to 140 words per minute. That affords us a lot of downtimes—time to get distracted, begin our defense, come up with solutions, daydream, and, eventually,...
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Who’s building the building?

Am I building something, or am I contributing to something that’s being built? That’s a good question. If I perceive myself as building something then my ownership and control issues will be stronger.  I may feel, or wish to feel, more powerful. I may also feel more, or less, stressed, dependent on how things seem to be going. If I perceive myself as contributing to something bigger...
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“I’m not very good at what I do,” said Nicholas

“I’m not very good at what I do,” said Nicholas, the hotel restaurant waitperson. “That’s good to know. I’ll keep my expectations low,” I countered. “Good idea!” He responded, as all three or four of the diners, scattered around the restaurant, laughed. “Really, it’s true,” he continued. “I’m just covering for a...
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‘Beware the Ides of March’

“Beware the Ides of March!” But Julius Caesar didn’t heed the warning and Brutus (of “Et tu, Brute?” fame) did him in. Today, March 15th! Caesar may not have known the difference between an ally and a confidant. We can get in trouble over that too. Click here for the difference. Knowing helps. I’d like to hear from you about this. Please write me...
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Are You Listening?

As a coach, counselor, and facilitator I’m expected to listen. I even get paid to listen. Yet in the last 24 hours I know I have: Interrupted (because I forgot the other person was actually talking). Finished someone else’s sentence (and got it wrong). Told my story (that their story brought to mind) before they finished theirs. And more… It’s embarrassing. As soon as I...
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Denverton, California: my Home, Home, Home, Hometown back in ’49.

I wrote my bio (below) for an upcoming Merced College event in March entitled “Get Fired Up!” As my fellow Sealegger, I want you to see it and share your comments and stories. Here it is: Professional Development Coach, John Parker, M.A., successfully trains, motivates and inspires participants toward greater leadership, communication, and customer service skills. Bringing...
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Martin Luther King, Jr. Day

Leadership lessons  from Martin Luther King, Jr. (Wikipedia) 1. “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. 2. “If you can’t fly then run; if you can’t run then walk; if you can’t walk then crawl but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.” 3. “Free at last, Free at last, Thank God...
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Sealeggers on the Beirocks

First, it’s not Beirox or Beiroxi. It’s a Beirock! The plural is Beirocks. They are referred to as a covey, gaggle, group, flock, basketful, or tray of Beirocks (Hey! Why not? You guys liked beirocks spelled beirox, right?). Second, there are a lot bierock fans: Here are some beirock comments: Kelly: Good morning John, My only question is where can I get a Beirox in Fresno now?  I...
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