Parent, Partner, Pal. Which is best for your team?

Parent, Partner, Pal. Which is best for your team? Your answer came immediately. All three have a place. Your team leading goal is probably to partner. In order to partner with your team you added of a dose of parent and a sprinkle of pal. Teams want coaches not bosses. Coaches who respectfully ask, thoughtfully listen, calmly facilitate, and strongly encourage toward building a team that is, in...
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WIIFM = The Universal Truth for Communicating Persuasively

Marketing guru, Daniel Decker writes, “Regardless of whether you are trying to sell a product or persuade someone with an idea, you must start by addressing The WIIFM Factor, WIIFM = “What’s in it for me?” “WIIFM is the stuff that shows how or why what you have to sell or say matters to those who you are trying to sell or say it too. It’s the value proposition, the thing that...
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Mouth-to-Ears Ratio.

Sometimes we the want our teacher to simply listen. We really would like them to thoughtfully acknowledge or even kindly appreciate our idea, rather than teaching us yet another helpful thing from their vast reservoir of knowledge. Teaching implies that the teacher knows and the student doesn’t. It is good for teachers and leaders to monitor their Teaching-to-Listening (or Mouth-to-Ears) Ratio...
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Is your team boring? Do a make-over!

The Policies and Procedures Team thought they were boring until they brainstormed about the things they do. The top two items were: 1. SAVE MONEY with up-to-date policies that will stand up in court. 2. MAKE MONEY by creating policies and procedures that help staff focus productivity. Their fun new slogan has dollar signs sandwiched between the word POLICIES $$ and $$ PROCEDURES “The Money...
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Are you Coaching Up?

On the topic of coaching team members I like to put in a good word for coaching up. That is for “coaching” your boss. Sometimes coaching and communicating is not their strong suite and you can help them and yourself by taking initiative to touch base with them regularly. I’m not talking about formal coaching where you are helping them improve or develop. I am talking about...
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Feeling angry, guilty, or both?

Don’t rock the boat! If you believe you can stop the boat from rocking you may feel angry or guilty when it does, depending on who you blame—others or yourself. Is there a third option? “Don’t rock the boat!” fosters a false expectation about the amount of things others or ourselves can control. We may believe that people have a lot more to do with rocking the boat...
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Got Friends? 500 Facebook Friends may not be enough.

I like to teach about resilience, the capacity to spring back, rebound, and successfully adapt in the face of adversity. Having one or two good friends who care about us and will not judge or try to fix us is one of the keys to maintaining healthy resilience. My colleague, Toni Daniels writes about friendships and joy. It fits right in with gaining resilience. Toni explains: “Joy means...
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“Think outside the box!” But what about the box?

“Think outside the box!” But what about the box? In the Team Building Puzzle Game the class is divided up into small groups of four to five participants. Every group gets an identical puzzle. After hearing, “Go!” the first team to complete the puzzle wins. Some teams try to put their jigsaw puzzle without looking at the picture on the box. Even though no rule against...
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Here’s the Link to My Book Updates

Sorry the last link wasn’t linked! I really hope you will click here and you’ll see the subscribe window.  Please sign in to get free updates as I publish my book online. Thank you,...
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Got a rambler inside your group? your family? or your self?

Got rambler inside your group? family? or yourself? No, we’re not talking about a car, like my Grandfather’s 1956 Nash Rambler! I loved that! No, not a wandering cowboy. So romantically depressing! Do your eyes glaze over? Do you try to give hints? Do you hope they are winding down only to discover that they are actually not tired and just getting started? You’re dealing with a...
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Recovery! Is it a good thing?

Some people like being in a recovery group.  Perhaps it’s because participants can talk about issues and others listen and that feels good. Some people have no interest in being in a recovery group. Perhaps they think that it focuses on problems instead of solutions. Why the difference? What have you heard? What do you think? If you want to, please reply with your thoughts. Thank...
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Perfection kills dreams! Enjoy imperfection and get moving!

Perfection kills dreams! Enjoy imperfection and get moving! Perfection steals hope, dreams and risk-taking! Perfection’s best friend is… Procrastination! That logical, practical, thoughtful, and wasteful dream-killer! We dream! Wonderful! Then, we imagine something going wrong, others laughing and ridiculing, and… We give up! If you will just settle for a “B” grade...
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