How’s Your Leader-Ship? And, Your Follower-Ship? ARGH!

It’s okay to have followers. The question is why do we want them? Do we want them for their success or for ours? Are we leading out of generosity or neediness? Are we longing for something in, or from, them that will benefit us at work, home, or some other venue? Poor Leadership uses its followers. Out of sense of inadequacy, fear of loss, and a lust for power, control, or success it controls,...
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Quitting – the Quieter Quest.

Starting is hard, but so is stopping. After writing a column in a small town weekly newspaper for over 15 years, I quit. Last month, voluntarily, under no pressure or duress, I let the let newspaper know that I was stopping. My editor’s “retiring” and moving-on was a big factor in my decision.  I tried writing for a few more weeks but then realized this was a good time for me...
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The Happiest Brains may be Sad, Angry, or Scared!

Here’s what brain research* says will make you happy: 1. Ask, “What am I grateful for?” No answers? Doesn’t matter. Just searching helps. 2. Label those negative emotions. Give it a name, and your brain isn’t so bothered by it. 3. Decide. Go for “good enough” instead of “best decision ever made on Earth.” 4. Hugs, hugs, hugs. Don’t text — touch. *(This piece originally...
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Tree-climbing fish! Are they sitting ducks?

Einstein says, “Everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid!” Poor fish. Except for the Mudskipper (pictured). It does climb trees. But what do all the other fish think? And what about the squirrels? What do they think? If we are unique does that make us weird? Is that okay with you? Or do you...
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The gulf between ‘risky’ and ‘feels risky’ is huge. – Seth Godin

Seth Godin writes: “The gulf between ‘risky’ and ‘feels risky’ is huge. And it’s getting bigger. “It turns out that value creation lives in this gap. The things that most people won’t do (because it feels risky) that are in fact not risky at all. “If your compass for forward motion involves avoiding things that feel risky, it pays to get...
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Manager not Enforcing Rules

After a class on Writing Policies and Procedures, someone asked, “Do you have any advice for dealing with a manager who won’t enforce a rule?” My response is to address the manager’s apathy or resistance as a Sales, Motivation, Systems, and/or Change issue. Sales: good sales people patiently build long-term relationships in order to develop a “drip watering” system of...
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Trust in your own understanding. Correct?

Trust in your own understanding. That sounds practical and right. But…”don’t trust your own understanding” is what the Ancient Proverb (3:5) says. Wait just a minute! We are supposed to trust our own understanding. Isn’t that the point of schooling. We are taught to gain a body of facts and formulas so we can figure things out and be successful. While this may work...
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80% of your success? Answer inside!

Free-writing is the ticket when you don’t know what to write or if your feeling stumped, blocked or rusty about what to say. I’m doing it right now because I’ve been on-the-road with a full schedule, have not been blogging for a while, and had no idea what to write about. I remember a few years ago, I would open my blog screen before I knew what I was going to write about. It...
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Roosters in the parking lot! Now what?

Roosters are Wendy’s parking lot! Hens too. All quietly working Wendy’s drive through. Still in my car, I am enjoying their style before I get out to go to the Mexican restaurant next door. Suddenly, running toward the free-range chickens, a four year old boy dashes away from his mother as they are leaving the Mexican restaurant. He wants to get close to them. Alarmed and concerned...
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What if your work didn’t matter? And, instead, you did?

What if your work didn’t really matter? What if there were no performance reviews and no bottom line? It does, and there are, but just for the fun of it, what if? And, instead, what if you really matter? What if your attitude and actions around your work and your family and your social duties and commitments are what really matter? Sometimes I suspect the really important things happen in...
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Parent, Partner, Pal. Which is best for your team?

Parent, Partner, Pal. Which is best for your team? Your answer came immediately. All three have a place. Your team leading goal is probably to partner. In order to partner with your team you added of a dose of parent and a sprinkle of pal. Teams want coaches not bosses. Coaches who respectfully ask, thoughtfully listen, calmly facilitate, and strongly encourage toward building a team that is, in...
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WIIFM = The Universal Truth for Communicating Persuasively

Marketing guru, Daniel Decker writes, “Regardless of whether you are trying to sell a product or persuade someone with an idea, you must start by addressing The WIIFM Factor, WIIFM = “What’s in it for me?” “WIIFM is the stuff that shows how or why what you have to sell or say matters to those who you are trying to sell or say it too. It’s the value proposition, the thing that...
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