Breakfast snacks that kill dreams

“Business culture eats strategy for breakfast.” — Peter Drucker One key person embedded with the existing culture can cannibalize a great strategy for breakfast—even if doing so means is killing future success. Often the one key One has “earned” the right to defend the existing culture: they’ve been there for years,  they are the CEO, they have some...
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Two Foot Story

If you are standing with a foot in each of two boats, and one boat is sinking, make a choice. Otherwise, you’ll go down with the sinking ship. Sometimes no choice is a choice. Fish or cut bait, only you can decide! Argh, me...
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Addicted to control?

Being in charge is heady stuff. A shot glass of control can soothe the nerves. Watch out! It can be addicting! And attractive! After all, when I’m in charge I don’t have to wait, or compromise, or be patient, or let go, or lose. I don’t have to feel out of control and powerless—like I did as a little kid. Not being in charge is scary stuff. What if someone says something...
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Trapeze living! La Vida Loca or La Vida Real?

Over 25 years ago I looked at my life—house-by-the-lake, two cars (a lot for me then!), three boats (sail boat, sailboard, and scull), a flourishing not-for-profit (Oh, sweet irony!) organization, and…(wait for it!)…two freezers—and I wondered, “If I’ve got two freezers where is my faith?’ “I want to live by faith!” I cried upwards! Boom! My...
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A + B = C ! Until you get good with D!

A + B = C A — Activator: the event that led to negative thought B — Belief: about the Event =  C, the Consequence of  A + B Change things with D! D = We are Disputing C, the assumed Consequence! Example: A: I’m Late B: Late people are disliked = C: I am disliked for being late. Now, add, D: I know some great people who run late. And, I am often on time. Now, this...
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Strengths Utilized? Then You’re Engaged!

Are your Strengths recognized, valued, and utilized at work?  If so, that will keep you more engaged, fulfilled, and happy. Workshop Presenters for the Merced College Customer Service Academy took the Gallup Strength Finders 2.0 Survey. Out of 34 Strengths the survey gives the survey-taker their top five. My five are below and numbered in order. Also, each topic asks me to respond to the...
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Teaching through Conflict

Conflict among your team can be healthy. Try asking them what the conflict is about and give them choices. Four common sources of conflict are: Values Facts and data Processes and methods Goals and priorities If the source can be identified then we can: Know our conflict is normal Focus in on one of the sources Make sure the issue aligns with our team mission and vision Healthy conflict is...
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How’s Your Leader-Ship? And, Your Follower-Ship? ARGH!

It’s okay to have followers. The question is why do we want them? Do we want them for their success or for ours? Are we leading out of generosity or neediness? Are we longing for something in, or from, them that will benefit us at work, home, or some other venue? Poor Leadership uses its followers. Out of sense of inadequacy, fear of loss, and a lust for power, control, or success it controls,...
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Quitting – the Quieter Quest.

Starting is hard, but so is stopping. After writing a column in a small town weekly newspaper for over 15 years, I quit. Last month, voluntarily, under no pressure or duress, I let the let newspaper know that I was stopping. My editor’s “retiring” and moving-on was a big factor in my decision.  I tried writing for a few more weeks but then realized this was a good time for me...
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The Happiest Brains may be Sad, Angry, or Scared!

Here’s what brain research* says will make you happy: 1. Ask, “What am I grateful for?” No answers? Doesn’t matter. Just searching helps. 2. Label those negative emotions. Give it a name, and your brain isn’t so bothered by it. 3. Decide. Go for “good enough” instead of “best decision ever made on Earth.” 4. Hugs, hugs, hugs. Don’t text — touch. *(This piece originally...
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Tree-climbing fish! Are they sitting ducks?

Einstein says, “Everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid!” Poor fish. Except for the Mudskipper (pictured). It does climb trees. But what do all the other fish think? And what about the squirrels? What do they think? If we are unique does that make us weird? Is that okay with you? Or do you...
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The gulf between ‘risky’ and ‘feels risky’ is huge. – Seth Godin

Seth Godin writes: “The gulf between ‘risky’ and ‘feels risky’ is huge. And it’s getting bigger. “It turns out that value creation lives in this gap. The things that most people won’t do (because it feels risky) that are in fact not risky at all. “If your compass for forward motion involves avoiding things that feel risky, it pays to get...
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