Trust in your own understanding. Correct?

Trust in your own understanding. That sounds practical and right. But…”don’t trust your own understanding” is what the Ancient Proverb (3:5) says. Wait just a minute! We are supposed to trust our own understanding. Isn’t that the point of schooling. We are taught to gain a body of facts and formulas so we can figure things out and be successful. While this may work...
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80% of your success? Answer inside!

Free-writing is the ticket when you don’t know what to write or if your feeling stumped, blocked or rusty about what to say. I’m doing it right now because I’ve been on-the-road with a full schedule, have not been blogging for a while, and had no idea what to write about. I remember a few years ago, I would open my blog screen before I knew what I was going to write about. It...
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Roosters in the parking lot! Now what?

Roosters are Wendy’s parking lot! Hens too. All quietly working Wendy’s drive through. Still in my car, I am enjoying their style before I get out to go to the Mexican restaurant next door. Suddenly, running toward the free-range chickens, a four year old boy dashes away from his mother as they are leaving the Mexican restaurant. He wants to get close to them. Alarmed and concerned...
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What if your work didn’t matter? And, instead, you did?

What if your work didn’t really matter? What if there were no performance reviews and no bottom line? It does, and there are, but just for the fun of it, what if? And, instead, what if you really matter? What if your attitude and actions around your work and your family and your social duties and commitments are what really matter? Sometimes I suspect the really important things happen in...
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Parent, Partner, Pal. Which is best for your team?

Parent, Partner, Pal. Which is best for your team? Your answer came immediately. All three have a place. Your team leading goal is probably to partner. In order to partner with your team you added of a dose of parent and a sprinkle of pal. Teams want coaches not bosses. Coaches who respectfully ask, thoughtfully listen, calmly facilitate, and strongly encourage toward building a team that is, in...
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WIIFM = The Universal Truth for Communicating Persuasively

Marketing guru, Daniel Decker writes, “Regardless of whether you are trying to sell a product or persuade someone with an idea, you must start by addressing The WIIFM Factor, WIIFM = “What’s in it for me?” “WIIFM is the stuff that shows how or why what you have to sell or say matters to those who you are trying to sell or say it too. It’s the value proposition, the thing that...
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Mouth-to-Ears Ratio.

Sometimes we the want our teacher to simply listen. We really would like them to thoughtfully acknowledge or even kindly appreciate our idea, rather than teaching us yet another helpful thing from their vast reservoir of knowledge. Teaching implies that the teacher knows and the student doesn’t. It is good for teachers and leaders to monitor their Teaching-to-Listening (or Mouth-to-Ears) Ratio...
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Is your team boring? Do a make-over!

The Policies and Procedures Team thought they were boring until they brainstormed about the things they do. The top two items were: 1. SAVE MONEY with up-to-date policies that will stand up in court. 2. MAKE MONEY by creating policies and procedures that help staff focus productivity. Their fun new slogan has dollar signs sandwiched between the word POLICIES $$ and $$ PROCEDURES “The Money...
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Are you Coaching Up?

On the topic of coaching team members I like to put in a good word for coaching up. That is for “coaching” your boss. Sometimes coaching and communicating is not their strong suite and you can help them and yourself by taking initiative to touch base with them regularly. I’m not talking about formal coaching where you are helping them improve or develop. I am talking about...
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Feeling angry, guilty, or both?

Don’t rock the boat! If you believe you can stop the boat from rocking you may feel angry or guilty when it does, depending on who you blame—others or yourself. Is there a third option? “Don’t rock the boat!” fosters a false expectation about the amount of things others or ourselves can control. We may believe that people have a lot more to do with rocking the boat...
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Got Friends? 500 Facebook Friends may not be enough.

I like to teach about resilience, the capacity to spring back, rebound, and successfully adapt in the face of adversity. Having one or two good friends who care about us and will not judge or try to fix us is one of the keys to maintaining healthy resilience. My colleague, Toni Daniels writes about friendships and joy. It fits right in with gaining resilience. Toni explains: “Joy means...
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“Think outside the box!” But what about the box?

“Think outside the box!” But what about the box? In the Team Building Puzzle Game the class is divided up into small groups of four to five participants. Every group gets an identical puzzle. After hearing, “Go!” the first team to complete the puzzle wins. Some teams try to put their jigsaw puzzle without looking at the picture on the box. Even though no rule against...
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