How’s Your Leader-Ship? And, Your Follower-Ship? ARGH!

It’s okay to have followers. The question is why do we want them? Do we want them for their success or for ours? Are we leading out of generosity or neediness? Are we longing for something in, or from, them that will benefit us at work, home, or some other venue? Poor Leadership uses its followers. Out of sense of inadequacy, fear of loss, and a lust for power, control, or success it controls,...
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Quitting – the Quieter Quest.

Starting is hard, but so is stopping. After writing a column in a small town weekly newspaper for over 15 years, I quit. Last month, voluntarily, under no pressure or duress, I let the let newspaper know that I was stopping. My editor’s “retiring” and moving-on was a big factor in my decision.  I tried writing for a few more weeks but then realized this was a good time for me...
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The Happiest Brains may be Sad, Angry, or Scared!

Here’s what brain research* says will make you happy: 1. Ask, “What am I grateful for?” No answers? Doesn’t matter. Just searching helps. 2. Label those negative emotions. Give it a name, and your brain isn’t so bothered by it. 3. Decide. Go for “good enough” instead of “best decision ever made on Earth.” 4. Hugs, hugs, hugs. Don’t text — touch. *(This piece originally...
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Tree-climbing fish! Are they sitting ducks?

Einstein says, “Everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid!” Poor fish. Except for the Mudskipper (pictured). It does climb trees. But what do all the other fish think? And what about the squirrels? What do they think? If we are unique does that make us weird? Is that okay with you? Or do you...
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The gulf between ‘risky’ and ‘feels risky’ is huge. – Seth Godin

Seth Godin writes: “The gulf between ‘risky’ and ‘feels risky’ is huge. And it’s getting bigger. “It turns out that value creation lives in this gap. The things that most people won’t do (because it feels risky) that are in fact not risky at all. “If your compass for forward motion involves avoiding things that feel risky, it pays to get...
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